Time for a story-today

Ryan is taking a gap year between high school and college. He’s a corps member for the California Conservation Corps. In January, he went on a medical leave for a stress fracture of his heel. Today- finally`-he went back to the CCC. One can imagine how this past few days have been. His dad and I have let him pack what he needs to (with some reminders from us). He hasn’t wanted reminders, and hasn’t wanted our help. Of course in the back of my mind, I’m thinking, “what’s he going to forget?”

Sure enough, this afternoon, I get 2 calls. Phone call #1-Ryan – “Mom, I forgot my……, can you bring it to me? (We’re 30 minutes away). Me: “No, if you need it so bad, call Uber and go to Target.” Phone call #2 – Ryan: Mom, I forgot my……., can you bring it to me?” Me: “No, if you need it so bad, call Uber and go to Target.”

Ugh, I really just wanted to get in my car and take him the things he left at home. I kept tellling myself “Don’t do it!” Do I feel horrible? Yes. Do I feel guilty? Yes. Should I? No. And none of us should. It’s one of the only ways our kids will learn to be independent. We need to let our kids learn how to adult; even our kids with differences.

Now, I’m just waiting for the next call………….